Hello there! If you ended up reading this post after a random search on google about cinta jarak jauh or
“long distance relationship”, I am pretty sure that you need some help on making this kind of relationship works. Well, maybe i can help you with my own little story of long-distance love. 🙂 For those yang kenal i atau rajin baca my blog mungkin dah tahu yang my boyfriend are not from Malaysia. He’s from Greece. He’s living and working there and we have been together for almost 3 years now.
Berbalik kepada tajuk, okay ke cinta jarak jauh ni? Actually, I don’t have the exact answer for that. Why? because this kind of relationship depends on how much commitment you and your partner willing to give. Jangan fikir sebab dia jauh, your relationship won’t work. Satu benda penting ni you kena ingat, if your partner bukan jenis loyal, dekat atau jauh, sama je. Sooner or later your partner will cheat on you. Distance is just one of the lame excuses that someone can give.
Bercakap pasal relationship ni, all my past relationships didn’t work because of common reason such as cheating, lack of attention and commitment. Surprisingly, my current relationship is the longest relationship I have ever had so far and it’s a long distance. Jadi if you think your relationship won’t work because of the distance, you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life.
Why long-distance couples have the strongest relationships.
Semua orang tahu not everyone can do this kind of relationship. If you jenis cepat berubah hati and can’t give a full commitment, your relationship won’t survive. I kenal few couples on Instagram who started their relationship as a long distance couple before they get married and close the distance. Listening to their stories has truly inspired me. What I’ve learned the most is how deep the value of loyalty can go. Loyalty is an important value in any relationship, but for a long-distance couple, it means more than being faithful and good to one another. It also means honouring the daily rituals you two have become accustomed :
- To never forgetting to call,
- Always making an effort to surprise your partner,
- And doing everything you can to make the separation easier until you can finally be together.
When you’re in a long distance, you already know what life is like without each other, and it’s not something you ever want to face or something you ever want to lose.
How me and my boyfriend do our best to make it works?
Orang tanya i, “how do I know my boyfriend doesn’t cheat?”.
In a relationship, you have no choice but to learn how to count on each other and have faith in one another. Trust is something that you must build into a relationship and then it needs to be maintained. I trust him and he trusts me. If we have something in mind that connected to our trust, we will make time to talk about it.
My boyfriend faham yang I ni jenis needs affection and attention all the time. Okay, attention yang i maksudkan bukan normal attention that people usually get. It’s extra attention okay! 🙂 Dari hari 1st i jadi his girlfriend sampai la sekarang, tak pernah sekali pun I rasa lack of attention. Sometimes cara dia layan i macam our relationship ni baru sehari dua. Setiap kali i cari my boyfriend (call or text), dia tak pernah cakap dia busy (yes, tak pernah sekali pun, walapun i tahu dia busy). I’m always his priority dan dia tak pernah buat I rasa unwanted. I did the same things to him too but since I have anger issues, my patience tak sehebat my boyfriend. Haha. We both give our best to be a good partner and will do everything we can to prioritizing one another.
We talk on Skype and Whatsapp every day! Skype dah macam CCTV, on 24 hours. We have 6 hours time difference but we never make it as an excuse not to see each other every day. On weekdays, I usually sleep before 10:00 pm. I put my laptop beside me in bed and leave it signed in with auto answer so he can call me when he got home from work. In the morning, I will wake him up. We talk a little before I go to work or sometimes he waits for me to wake up in the morning and sleep after I go to work. That’s our routine for almost 3 years. On weekend, we watch tv series, movies and play online video games together. Since we both are introvert, we don’t go out much and rather spend our time together.
- Meeting Plans
Being in a long distance relationship is expensive. When we have meeting plans, we will make sure that we have enough money to spend on a plane ticket, accommodation, meals, etc.. (we all know that flight ticket is not cheap and it costs us at least 600 Euros). What we do; we save our money and split the expenses. For now, we only can afford to meet once a year. Yes, once a year (usually for 2 weeks). Kesian kan? Haha. But, the times spent together are filled with love and lasting memories. We have no time to waste, so these times are spent adventuring, cuddling and doing things that will make us truly happy.
- Future Plan
Well…of course, we have our future plan together. 🙂 It’s exciting when I think about it!
Are you in a long distance relationship?
If you are, please hit the contact menu and send me an email! I wanna hear your long-distance story too! 🙂 Maybe we can build a community so we can help each other. To all LDR’s couples, remember that you’re in a relationship that’s all about the little things, and nothing is stronger than that. XOXO.