“If I had a penny for every married man who showed interest in me, I’d be rich.”
Yup, you read that right. If I had no morals and didnāt care about stealing someone elseās husband, Iād probably be married by now. But hereās the thingāI do care. I care about loyalty, commitment, and the basic decency of not interfering in someone elseās marriage. So, when yet another married man comes sniffing around, I canāt help but wonder: Why do people get married if they canāt stay faithful?
I was venting about this to my friend Nat recently, and his response was blunt:
“People suck, Hani.”
Hard to argue with that. He also mentioned how open relationships are becoming more common where he lives in Australia. And while I try not to judge, I canāt help but feel that weāre normalizing things that shouldnāt be normalized.
Sure, people can live however they want, but personally? I believe in loveāthe kind that is built on commitment, respect, and sticking together through lifeās ups and downs. I believe in a love that doesnāt crumble at the first sign of boredom or temptation. Maybe Iām old-fashioned, or maybe weāve just lost touch with what meaningful relationships are supposed to be.
The Crumbling Idea of Love
The modern dating scene feels increasingly hollow. Everything revolves around swiping left or right, casual flings, and momentary satisfaction. Real connections seem rare. Weāve traded depth for convenience, and honestly, itās exhausting.
And letās be realāfaithfulness isnāt just a man’s problem. Iāve seen married women cheat, too. Iāve witnessed enough infidelity to seriously question the entire institution of marriage.
So, again, why even bother getting married if you canāt stay committed?
The Unwanted Attention
For the past four years, Iāve intentionally stepped away from dating. Partly to avoid heartbreak, but also to minimize these kinds of situations. Yet, here I amāstill dealing with unwanted attention from married men.
The latest incident? A married man went as far as stalking me and trying to get my home address. Let that sink in.
Itās beyond frustrating. Iām not impressed by wealth, status, or their ability to juggle multiple partners. That lifestyle doesnāt align with my values. No amount of luxury could make me overlook a manās lack of integrity. I want loyalty, honesty, and real commitmentānot a man who canāt even stay true to his own wife.
Loyalty: My Non-Negotiable
Hereās the thing:Ā I don’t have to be in an official relationship with someone to be loyal to them. I can be loyal even without an official commitment. Once I develop feelings for someone, my attention becomes completely dedicated to that person. It doesn’t matter if there are others who show interest in me; the heart wants what it wants. I can remain unwaveringly loyal to one man for an extended period of time until I am certain that he has chosen someone else. Only then do I let go of any lingering hope and allow myself to consider developing feelings for another man. This has always been my approachāfocusing my attention and emotions on a single person at a time.Ā
So when I see men betraying their partners so easily, it disgusts me. If they canāt respect the person they vowed to love, what makes me think theyād ever respect me? Greedy people are never satisfied, no matter what they possess.
Iād rather be alone forever than settle for someone who plays games with loyalty. Loyalty and faithfulness are principles that I hold dear, and those who cannot uphold them do not earn my respect or interest.Ā
Why Get Married If You Canāt Stay Committed?
After witnessing so many cases of infidelity, I canāt help but ask:
“Why do people even choose to get married if they canāt commit?”
If you canāt be faithful, stay single. Itās really that simple.
X, Hani. ā¤
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