Some friendships don’t need constant checking in. They don’t need daily texts, weekly catch-ups, or reassurance that we still matter to each other. And this is the kind of friendship I have with my best friend.

We don’t see each other often—and that’s precisely what I love about it.

Our friendship is low-maintenance in the best way possible. We don’t talk every day, and sometimes weeks pass without a proper conversation. But somehow, we always know what’s going on in each other’s lives. A WhatsApp status, an Instagram story, a quick reply to even the smallest updates—that’s enough. And if one of us really needs someone to talk to, we show up. No questions asked.

Every three or four months, we make sure to meet. Proper quality time. A full day dedicated to catching up, gossiping, laughing, and talking about everything life has thrown at us since the last time. Those moments feel extra special because they’re intentional. They’re chosen.

We used to have more time together. But life changes. Ever since I’ve had a partner, responsibilities have shifted, and priorities look different. She understands that. She’s been incredibly respectful of my space and my life, and because of that, she never puts pressure on me. Every time she wants to hang out, she’ll say something like,

“When you’re free in the next week or two, text me—maybe we can hang out. I have lots to talk about!”

No guilt. No pressure. Just mutual understanding. And I love that about us.

I never had to prove that I’m a good friend to her. She never had to prove it to me either. There’s a quiet knowing between us. We protect each other, especially behind each other’s backs. The loyalty is quiet but solid. The kind where it’s unspoken, yet deeply felt. The kind where if you mess with me, you mess with her too—and vice versa. And honestly? She’s very protective of me to the point that if someone hurts me, she hates that person more than I ever could. 😂

After months of planning that never worked out, we finally managed to meet last weekend. As always, we ended up at Tamarind Square in Cyberjaya—apparently our favourite spot. We both love the vibe there: calm, cozy, and familiar, with plenty of restaurants and cafés to choose from. We had lunch at 10 Pots and then coffee at a beautiful café called Alcea Tea & Coffee. We spent the day so fully, laughing and talking, that we didn’t even realize how quickly it passed.

At some point during our conversation, I realised how much we’ve both grown and how far our friendship has come. I’ve reached a stage in life where I’m genuinely at peace—negativity no longer affects me. I’m… simply unbothered. My world feels lighter, and even when negativity comes my way, I know how to handle it. While she’s still working on herself, I find myself wanting the same peace for her. Not because I think I know better, but because I know she deserves all the good things life has to offer.

I know there were times in the past when people spoke badly about her. And honestly, I’ve always believed it came from jealousy. We all have flaws, but some people choose to focus only on them, ignoring everything else that makes someone valuable. And she has so much value. She’s loyal. She’s trustworthy. She’s the kind of friend you can rely on completely. I’ve had friends who spoke badly about me behind my back, too—but never her. Even after seeing my flaws. Even after moments when I know I wasn’t fair to her—maybe in the way I spoke, or how blunt I could be—she still protected my name. Our personalities are different, and yes, sometimes they clash. I know I might have offended her at times. But she never turned that into gossip or betrayal.

She showed her loyalty through her actions. And that, to me, means everything.

I truly believe everyone needs at least one friend like this in their life. A friend who doesn’t disappear when life changes. A friend who doesn’t keep score. A friend who protects you even when you’re not around. A friend who gives you room to live your life without guilt. A friend who grows with you, even if the journey looks different now.

That day at our favourite spot wasn’t just about lunch or coffee. It was a reminder that real friendships don’t need constant attention or validation just because we’re close. They need honesty, loyalty, understanding, and a whole lot of love. And I’m so grateful I have that with her.

One thing I’ve learned about our friendship is this: low-maintenance doesn’t make a friendship any less real. In fact, it makes the bond even stronger. These are the connections rooted in mutual respect, a healthy understanding of each other’s lives, and the freedom to grow without guilt or pressure. They don’t drain you… They recharge you. They adapt and survive life’s changes. They quietly protect your heart and fill it with love in ways that are steady, unwavering, and deeply felt.

If you’re lucky enough to have a friend like this, hold them close and never take them for granted.

—Auri Duham 💓