5 Savage (But Effective) Tricks I Use to Deal with Unwanted Attention from Men

There are still men out there who believe that if a woman is single, she must automatically be open to being approached, flirted with, or interrupted. It usually starts off casual, like a harmless comment or a “friendly” question. But then it lingers, turns awkward, and suddenly you have to deal with something you never invited into your space.

I’ve dealt with this kind of attention for most of my life, and I know I’m not the only one. After a while, it gets exhausting. So eventually, I realised I needed to do something—to make it clear that I’m not available for attention I never asked for.

So, I came up with a few little tricks. Some are lighthearted, some are a bit bolder, but they all have one goal: to protect my peace and set boundaries. Yes, some of these tactics might leave the wrong impression, but if that’s the cost of being left alone, I’ll take it.

Here are my top five tricks I use to deal with unwanted attention from men. They might not work for everyone, but they’ve definitely worked for me.

✅ “Can I Borrow Some Money?”

My personal favourite, and hands down, the most effective one. 😂

Let me just say this first: I’m not the kind of person who goes around asking people for money. In fact, I find it super uncomfortable to even bring that up in normal conversations. But when I’m dealing with a man who clearly doesn’t understand boundaries or, worse, thinks I’m someone he can charm into something, I bring out this trick.

It’s very simple. I’d say something like:

“Hey, do you think I could borrow some money? I’m a bit short this month.”

I’ve never—and I repeat, NEVER—had a problem with this trick. Most of them might say something polite like “Oh yeah, sure,” but the silence that follows? Golden. It’s like flipping a switch.

What makes this so powerful is how quickly it shifts the dynamic. A lot of men who come on too strong are only doing it because they assume you’ll be low-effort, easygoing, or flattered enough to go along with whatever they’re offering. But the second you introduce a real need, something that might actually require them to give, support, or commit… they run.

It works like magic. No long explanations. No awkward “I’m not interested” speech. Just one simple question… and suddenly, you’re free.

That’s exactly why this one is my favourite. It’s quick, clean, and gets the job done without me needing to say anything more.

✅ The “I’m Taken” Trick

Simple, classic, and still very effective.

Sure, we’re living in an era where not everyone respects relationships anymore, but this little trick still does the job more often than not. It’s my go-to whenever I’m travelling solo or find myself in unfamiliar places where I’d rather not deal with anyone’s unwanted energy.

All I do is slip on a ring (yes, that finger), and if needed, casually drop a line like:

“I’m engaged…” or “I’m married.”

Even when there’s no man around, it still works. You’d be surprised how quickly the tone shifts. The flirty energy turns into politeness, or better yet, silence. Either way, mission accomplished. It’s wild how a tiny piece of jewelry and a few well-placed words can completely change a man’s approach.

So why does this work so well? Sadly, it’s because a lot of men don’t really respect a woman’s “no” unless it comes with the imaginary stamp of another man’s presence. It’s as if our own boundaries only become valid when someone else has already claimed us.

It’s frustrating, no doubt. But I’ve learned to use that dynamic to my advantage. If pretending to be “taken” gives me space, safety, and peace of mind, then yes, I’ll play the role. Gladly.

✅ Turn Someone Into the Example

Psychological warfare… but make it casual.

This is one of those tricks that seems harmless on the surface… but oh, it works.

Let’s say I already know a bit about the guy. Maybe I’ve met his friend before, heard a few things through mutual circles, or I’ve just picked up on how he talks and carries himself. Instead of calling him out directly, I take a softer, smarter route:

I’ll casually drop something like:

“You know, I just can’t stand guys who jump from one woman to another so quickly. It’s such a turn-off.”

Then I sit back and watch the reaction. Most of the time, there’s no debate. No defense. Just a quiet fade-out.

Why? Because people naturally project themselves into the stories we tell, especially when they feel a little too familiar. If a guy sees even a hint of himself in the person I’m “complaining” about, it hits. And instead of addressing it, he usually just… disappears.

It’s a gentle, indirect way of setting a boundary without having to say, “You’re the problem.” You just let him do the math himself.

✅ Play the High-Maintenance Diva

If he thinks he wants a “baddie,” let’s test that theory.

Sometimes, I go full gold digger mode, not because I actually am one, but because some men assume I’ll be impressed by the bare minimum. And honestly, some of them really believe they’re ready for a high-maintenance woman… until they actually meet one.

So I lean into it. I’ll casually say something like:

“Oh, I only date guys who drive at least a Mercedes or Audi and can fly me out. If that’s not your lane, it’s really not worth my time.”

And just like that… silence. The confident “Hey, beautiful” energy? Gone. Suddenly, they remember they have a budget.

Now, do I truly expect someone to show up in a private jet or hand me a designer bag on the first date? Of course not. That’s not the point. What I’m doing is flipping the script.

If a guy approaches me thinking I’ll melt over a compliment, a coffee, or some copy-paste charm, this line sends a clear message: I’m not easy to impress. And if you’re not in a position to give, maybe don’t come around trying to get.

It’s bold, sure. Maybe even a little over the top. But for the ones who were only looking for someone to entertain or impress? This is where they quietly tap out. And honestly, I prefer it that way.

✅ Ignore. Block. Vanish.

Let’s not forget the oldest, and honestly, most powerful move in the book: complete silence.

This is the final step I take when someone refuses to respect a boundary. I usually follow through with this after one of my little tricks has worked—just to make sure they don’t circle back when things start to “cool down.

Plus, there are moments when no clever excuse or polite rejection is needed. The energy feels pushy, something’s off, and instead of explaining or engaging… I just disappear.

I’ve ignored messages, blocked numbers, and even ghosted a few persistent admirers—not out of rudeness, but out of self-respect. And the truth is, no explanation was ever necessary.

Here’s the thing: you don’t owe anyone your time, your energy, or your emotional labor, especially someone who couldn’t be bothered to read the room in the first place.

People who truly respect you won’t try to push past your “no.” But the ones who do? They don’t deserve a response; they deserve your absence.

So if ignoring someone protects your peace, do it. If blocking someone gives you breathing room, do it. You’re not being dramatic. You’re drawing a line, and sometimes, that line is silence.

Final Thoughts

Ladies…

You don’t need to be polite when you’re uncomfortable. You don’t need to explain your “no.” And you definitely don’t need to entertain the attention just to spare someone’s ego.

The truth is, sometimes “No” and “I’m not interested” just don’t work. Some people hear your boundaries and still choose to ignore them—and that’s exactly why these little tricks exist. They’re not about being mean. They’re about being smart: protecting your peace, your space, and your energy.

Whether it’s a fake fiancé, diva energy, or a simple block button, use whatever works for you. Your peace of mind is worth way more than the feelings of someone who barely knows you.

Take care,
X, Auri 🌼

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