Here’s My Advice To Those In Their 20s

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Birthdays are a mix of celebration and reflection for me. Every year, as the number on the calendar ticks upward, it feels like another chapter of life unfolds. When it comes to marriage, well, I’m still single. Maybe in two or three years? Who knows? 😄 But honestly, no regrets. My life feels almost perfect right now. To my parents, thank you so much for being the best parents in the world! Despite the challenges, you raised me with so much love and care. I love you both, now and always. 💕

When I say “almost perfect,” it doesn’t mean I’m swimming in wealth. For me, perfection is having things money can’t buy—love, health, peace of mind, and gratitude. Alhamdulillah. Looking back on my youth, I feel like I was a completely different person. Time, experiences, and mistakes shaped the version of me today, and for that, I’m thankful.

To all those in their early 20s, this post is for you. Here’s what I wish I’d known back then:

 

  1. Live in the Moment
    Don’t take life too seriously. Enjoy the present because these moments won’t come back.
  2. Marriage Can Wait
    Don’t rush into marriage just because you graduated or feel pressured. It’s okay to take your time.
  3. Financial Independence is a Must
    Find a job and earn your own money. Don’t rely on your parents or wait for a partner to “save” you.
  4. Value All Work
    Whether it’s washing dishes, being a cashier, or cleaning, no job is beneath you. Every halal job matters.
  5. Friends Will Fade
    Treasure the friendships you have now. As you grow older, you’ll notice the circle gets smaller.
  6. Walk Away from Toxicity
    If your partner or friends treat you poorly, don’t hesitate to leave. You deserve better.
  7. Heartbreak is Temporary
    When you face a breakup, know that in a few years, you’ll look back and be grateful for the lessons.
  8. Learn from Mistakes
    Every mistake is a stepping stone. Reflect and grow from them.
  9. Travel, Not Splurge
    Save for experiences, not expensive items. A plane ticket will give you memories that last a lifetime.
  10. Learn to Be Alone
    Independence is empowering. You don’t need company to feel complete.
  11. Take Care of Your Body
    Start early. As you age, your health and skin will thank you.
  12. Don’t Rush to Judge
    You never truly know someone until you walk in their shoes. Be kind and empathetic.
  13. Financial Smarts
    Avoid unnecessary loans and save diligently. Create a safety net for yourself.
  14. Be Yourself
    You don’t need to follow the crowd. Embrace your uniqueness and stay true to who you are.
  15. Trust, But Verify
    Whether it’s a partner or a friend, don’t blindly trust anyone. Protect yourself.
  16. Appreciate Family
    No matter the ups and downs, your family will always be there for you.
  17. Keep Secrets Safe
    Some things are better left unshared—even with your best friend.
  18. Plan and Achieve
    Set goals every year and work toward them. Growth is fulfilling.
  19. Enjoy Your Youth
    Do what you love, take risks, and live boldly. Time waits for no one.

This list might seem overwhelming, but these lessons have shaped me into who I am today. If I could turn back time, I’d want my younger self to hear these words.

So, to everyone in their 20s: life isn’t a race. It’s a journey of discovering who you are and what you’re capable of. Make mistakes, cherish experiences, and most importantly, live with gratitude.

Here’s to more birthdays, lessons, and growth ahead! 🎂✨

 

X, Hani.

 

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