Have you ever been in this situation?
You meet someone new. Things are going great. Youâre texting every day, sharing laughs, and maybe even went on a few dates. Then boomâout of nowhere, they disappear. No texts. No calls. No replies. One day theyâre all flowers and flirty emojis, the next? Radio silence.
They leave you on read, or worse, block you completely. And youâre left sitting there wondering:
âWhat did I do wrong?â
âWas it something I said?â
âBut everything felt so real just yesterdayâŚâ
It makes no sense, right?
If this sounds familiar, congratsâyouâve been ghosted.
Wait… What Is “Ghosting”?
“Ghosting” is when someone suddenly cuts off all communication with no explanation. Itâs like they vanish into thin airâpoof, like a ghost. đť No closure. No goodbye. Just… gone.
And sadly, you’re not alone. Ghosting is becoming more common, especially in the dating world. Why? Because it’s the easiest way out for people who donât have the maturity or courage to face emotionsâtheirs or yours.
Honestly, Iâd rather be rejected with honesty than be left in silence, confused and hurt.
If youâre currently going through this, hereâs how you can start healing and move on, one step at a time.
1. Donât Blame Yourself
This is the most important thing to remind yourself: Itâs not your fault.
Ghosting says more about them than it does about you. They didnât ghost you because you werenât good enoughâthey ghosted because they werenât strong enough to be honest.
Of course, youâll feel confused for a while. Thatâs normal. But remind yourself:
If someone truly cared about you, they wouldnât just disappear.
They left because they didnât care enough. And you deserve better than someone who disappears when things get real.
2. Stop Reaching OutâProtect Your Peace
I know the urge to text them âjust one more timeâ is real. You want answers. You want closure. But chasing someone who already walked away is just handing them more power over your emotions.
Send a message once or twice, max. But if they still ignore you, let it go. Donât pour your heart out in a 12-paragraph text. Donât call endlessly. All you’re doing is giving them the satisfaction of knowing they got under your skin.
Instead, hold your head high. Focus your energy on you, not them.
3. Donât Torture Yourself Looking for Answers
Curiosity kills, especially after ghosting. Your mind will play tricks on you.
âMaybe something happened to them?â
âMaybe theyâre just busy?â
âMaybe I said something wrong?â
Sometimes, even your inner detective comes outâstalking their social media for clues, re-reading old texts, and zooming in on blurry Instagram stories.
But let me save you time:
You probably wonât get a real answer. And thatâs okay.
The longer you cling to the âwhy,â the longer you stay stuck in pain. Some things are better left unknown. Closure doesnât always come from them. Sometimes, you have to give it to yourself.
4. Start the HealingâFor Real This Time
Moving on hurtsâat first. But once you decide to do it, the weight starts to lift.
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Delete their number.
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Archive or remove old chats.
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Stop re-reading old messages hoping for a clue.
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Accept that they were just passing through your life, not meant to stay.
Every step you take toward letting go is a step toward peace. It wonât happen overnight, but every day it gets easier.
5. Focus on YouâAnd Watch the Magic Happen
Heartbreak has a way of draining your confidence. So itâs time to pour that energy back into yourself.
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Go for a haircut.
đď¸ Treat yourself to a little retail therapy.
đ Take yourself outâdinner, movies, solo coffee dates.
đ Start that new hobby.
đŻââď¸ Hang out with your friends or meet new ones.
And here’s a little secret: the best way to respond to ghosting⌠is to ghost them right back. No chasing. No begging. No closure. Just pure silence.
Trust meânothing messes with their head more than your silence. You become the mystery they canât figure out. In some cases, they even come crawling back, wondering why you didnât fight for them. Funny, isnât it?
But by then, you wonât want them back anyway.
â¤ď¸ Final Words
Getting ghosted sucks. It messes with your mind, your heart, and your sense of self-worth.
But remember: being ghosted doesnât mean youâre not worthy of loveâit just means that person wasnât worthy of you.
So pick yourself up. Heal. Glow up. And most importantly, never let someoneâs immaturity define how you see yourself.
Youâve got this. đŞ
Sending love to everyone who’s ever been ghostedâyou’re not alone.
Until next time…
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