Have You Ever Felt Like You Have No One To Talk To?

Have you ever sat alone in your room, scrolling through your phone, and suddenly realised you don’t actually have anyone you feel comfortable talking to?

Not about the deep stuff.
Not about the things that keep you awake at night.
Not about the things that make your chest feel tight for no reason.

That feeling has been hitting me a lot lately.

It’s strange because I do have people in my life—family, colleagues, a few friends here and there. But still, there’s this quiet space inside me where I feel disconnected. Like I’m surrounded by noise but not real understanding.

On weekends, I can go the whole day without speaking to a single person. And sometimes, it doesn’t even bother me. What bothers me more is realising that even if I wanted to talk, I’m not sure who I’d open up to. Not really.

I used to have a best friend whom I could tell anything to. Life, feelings, random thoughts—everything. But things happened, trust broke, and I walked away. I miss the comfort of that friendship sometimes, but I don’t regret leaving. Once my trust is gone, it doesn’t return.

As I grow older, it feels harder and harder to form deep connections. Not because I reject people, but because our mindsets rarely match. I don’t force myself to fit in anymore. If a connection fades, I let it fade.

Most of the people I genuinely vibe with are online—living in other countries, different time zones, different lives. Yet I relate to them more than I do to the people physically around me. Funny how that works.

I think I’ve always been a bit different. When everyone goes one way, I naturally go the other. I question things. I observe things. I don’t follow the crowd just because everyone else does. And because of that, some people don’t know how to take me. Some even dislike me before I open my mouth.

I used to take it personally. I used to wonder if something was wrong with me. Now I see it differently: being different is a filter. It removes the people who were never meant to understand you.

And when you finally meet someone who gets you? Someone who speaks the same language as your mind? Someone who understands your excitement, your worries, your questions?
You hold on to them. Because people like that are rare.

Why You Can Still Feel Alone Even With People Around You

People think you’re lonely only when you lack friends or family. But loneliness is more complicated than that.

You can be surrounded by people and still feel like you have no one to talk to.
Why?
Because true connection isn’t about numbers—it’s about depth.

Maybe you’ve tried sharing something that meant a lot to you, only to get a dull response. Maybe someone changed the subject before you even finished your sentence. Maybe they meant well, but you felt unheard anyway.

That feeling builds up over time. Eventually, you stop sharing. You keep things inside because explaining yourself feels harder than staying silent.

It’s not because you’re “too complicated.” You just haven’t found enough like-minded people yet.

You’re Not the Only One Who Feels This Way

A lot of people feel exactly like this—you just don’t hear them talk about it. Many of us struggle quietly while pretending everything is fine.

And that’s one of the reasons I write. Writing helps me express things I can’t always say out loud. It gives me a space to breathe, reflect, and make sense of my thoughts. It also connects me to people who understand, even if we’ve never met.

If you feel like you have no one to talk to, try writing.
Not for the world—just for yourself.
A journal. A notebook. A random file on your phone.
Let your thoughts out. You might be surprised by how much clearer you feel.

And if you ever need someone to reach out to, my email is always open. I read every message. I may not have perfect answers, but I’ll always listen.

You’re not alone.
You never were.

X, Hani.