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I’ve never been a naturally private person. I used to be one of those people who shared almost everything with anyone willing to listen—or worse, with the entire internet. Whether it was personal drama, fleeting feelings, or random thoughts, I spilled it all. Looking back, it’s no surprise that my story and the associated drama became common knowledge among those around me.

If I could turn back time, I’d tell my younger self this simple truth:

A private life is a happy life.

But life, as it often does, taught me that lesson the hard way. Over time, I’ve come to deeply appreciate the value of keeping parts of my life to myself. The more I respected my own privacy, the less unnecessary noise surrounded me. My mental well-being improved, my stress reduced, and even my relationships became more meaningful.

Living a private life doesn’t mean shutting people out or bottling everything up. It’s about knowing where to draw the line, safeguarding my self-esteem, and maintaining healthy boundaries. It’s about deciding who gets a seat at the table of my private life—and not everyone qualifies.

Here’s why I’ve chosen to keep my life as private as possible now:

1. I Want To Live A Peaceful Life.

I’ve been practicing self-love for a while now, and as I grow older, I find myself craving peace more than anything. No drama. No gossip. No unnecessary noise.

I’ve realized that drama, confrontation, gossip, and exposure are battles I no longer find worth fighting. I don’t want to give people ammunition to use against me. I’ve learned to choose my battles wisely; some are not worth the energy. By keeping certain things private, I protect my peace—and that’s priceless.

2. I Feel Safe When People Don’t Know Much About Me.

In today’s world, respect for others seems to be in short supply, especially on the internet. People don’t just observe anymore—they analyze, judge, and weaponize.

When people know too much about you, they can twist your truths or use your vulnerabilities against you. It’s something I’ve experienced firsthand. While I can’t control how people behave, I can control what I share.

So I protect my boundaries fiercely. I choose silence when my words don’t add value, and I remain guarded about my personal life. My well-being and mental health are my top priorities. If people still find reasons to judge me, that’s their issue—not mine.

3. Not Everyone Has Good Intentions

I used to trust easily. Each of those experiences taught me valuable lessons about trust and human nature

I won’t lie—these betrayals left scars. For a long time, I was filled with resentment. But as I matured, I realized that people make mistakes, and sometimes, they grow from the mistakes they made. Would I let those people back into my life? Absolutely not. Do I wish them well? Yes, because forgiveness isn’t for them—it’s for me.

Still, I remind myself constantly that not everyone has good intentions. Some people will only take what you give and leave you broken in return. Trust is something I now offer sparingly—and only to those who have proven themselves worthy of it.

4. I Don’t Want To Have A Cheap Connection.

If you follow me on Instagram, you might notice something: I rarely post pictures of myself or the people close to me, and I’ve deleted most of my older photos. My friendships and relationships have become more selective and meaningful. I now require permission from anyone who takes a photo with me before they post it, and I’m highly protective of my dating life. I never expose my partner’s face. It’s not about being secretive; it’s about preserving the intimacy of my relationships. My life will remain a mystery because not everyone has earned the privilege of knowing every part of me.

These days, many of my friends are accomplished individuals—CEOs, public figures, or professionals I admire deeply. Keeping my personal life private ensures that my connections with them stay genuine, not transactional

5. I Want To Keep Myself Focused.

Whenever I’ve shared my goals with others, their reactions often left me feeling deflated or overly scrutinized. Some made dismissive comments, while others asked intrusive, judgmental questions.

I’ve realized that not everyone will understand or support my vision. Now, I keep my ambitions to myself. It’s liberating. I can focus on doing the work without the pressure of an audience or the fear of judgment. By keeping my goals private, I protect them—and myself—from unnecessary distractions.

When I do achieve something meaningful, I celebrate it quietly, without fanfare. My goals are mine to cherish, and my journey is mine to navigate.

Here on my blog, I’ll continue sharing my experiences in hopes of inspiring and helping others. But as far as the intricate details of my personal life go? Those will stay behind closed doors.

In fact, I’ve already started taking steps to ensure my privacy. I’ve removed posts that revealed too much about my personal life, and I’ve stopped oversharing on social media. It’s not about secrecy—it’s about respect. Respect for myself, my boundaries, and the people closest to me.

Let’s value each other’s privacy and practice respect. After all, a little mystery is good for the soul.

X. Hani.