
We all have regrets. Maybe it’s a person we wish we had never met, a path we wish we had never taken, or a mistake we wish we could undo.
“I wish I could turn back time and do things differently.”
Sound familiar? We’ve all said it at some point.
Life Happens, Whether We Like It or Not
Do things really happen for a reason?
Some people believe they do—that every heartbreak, every wrong turn, and every painful lesson is meant to shape us. Others struggle to see the purpose behind their pain. And honestly? I’ve been on both sides.
The truth is, we have no control over many things that happen to us. We can try our best to avoid pain, but life has a way of unfolding in ways we don’t always understand. It’s unpredictable, frustrating, and sometimes even cruel. But within all that chaos, there’s something strangely harmonious.
Every experience—good or bad—serves a purpose.
And that’s why I remind myself of one simple truth: acceptance is key. The more we resist what has already happened, the harder it becomes to move forward.
So, let’s get to the real question.
“Why Should You Never Regret Dating the Person Who Broke Your Heart?”
Because…
Every relationship, no matter how it ends, comes with something valuable—if you’re willing to open your mind and learn from it.
We meet so many people throughout our lives. Some are meant to stay, while others simply pass through. Some bring joy, while others leave us shattered. But no matter how they come or go, every person we meet plays a role in our story.
Of course, we all wish to find the right person without getting hurt. And if you’re one of the lucky ones who did—good for you. Maybe you’re one of God’s favourites. But for most of us, heartbreak is part of the journey.
When Pain Turns Into Bitterness
I won’t sugarcoat it—breakups are brutal.
I still remember how much resentment I carried after my breakup three years ago. I was stuck in denial, convinced that I didn’t deserve what happened. I prayed for karma to hit him. I wanted him to suffer—more than I did.
Back then, I truly regretted dating him.
But I didn’t realize that holding onto all that negativity was keeping me stuck. If I let it consume me, I would have continued attracting the same kind of relationships, making the same mistakes, and meeting the same types of people in different bodies.
That’s when I learned that letting go isn’t just about them—it’s about freeing yourself.
Love Yourself Enough to Walk Away
Looking back, I now see that the biggest issue wasn’t him—it was me. I didn’t love myself enough back then. I allowed things to happen, even when they were disrespectful.
When people treated me badly, I thought it was my fault. I believed I wasn’t good enough. But that painful experience forced me to rebuild myself from the ground up.
I started choosing me.
I stopped chasing validation. I let go of the guilt, the pain, and the people who drained me. I learnt to enjoy my own company and became more mindful of who I allowed into my life. The healing process wasn’t easy—it took time, patience, and countless breakdowns.
But in the end, it was worth it.
Today, I am happier, stronger, and wiser.
And I owe some of that growth to the heartbreak I once thought would break me.
Should You Regret Treating Them Right?
For a long time, I believed that if I treated someone well, they would do the same in return. I was wrong.
Some people will take you for granted. Some will hurt you without even realizing it. And some just don’t know how to love you the way you deserve.
It sucks, but that’s just how life is.
My mother always reminds me of one thing:
“No matter how badly someone treats you, be kind anyway. Never stoop to their level.”
And I’ll be honest—it’s not easy. I’ve had my moments where I fantasized about revenge. I’ve been angry. I’ve been bitter. But at the end of the day, I always choose to walk away because I know treating someone right gives me peace of mind, and how I treat others is a reflection of who I am—not who they are.
Plus, I don’t want to live with the guilt of causing someone else pain.
The Power of Closure (Even If It’s One-Sided)
2 months ago, I received an email from my ex.
He told me that our breakup had changed him—that losing me forced him to confront painful realisations, making him reflect and grow.
And you know what? It made me smile—not because I needed closure, but because I had already made peace with the past. In the end, he was someone I once chose, someone I once loved and invested my time in. Though our time together was painful, it shaped us both into better versions of ourselves. For that, I no longer felt resentment toward him. I had let go.
And that’s when I realised something important:
Sometimes, the closure we seek isn’t about hearing an apology—it’s about making peace with ourselves.
Final Thoughts
My past heartbreaks have shaped me into the person I am today. I didn’t deserve the pain, but I did deserve the lesson.
So no, I don’t regret the love I gave. I don’t regret the relationship. And I don’t regret the person who broke my heart.
Because every heartbreak, every disappointment, and every moment of pain taught me something I wouldn’t have learnt otherwise.
And for that, I am grateful.
So, if you’re holding onto regret, I hope you find the strength to let go. Love always comes with the risk of heartbreak, but that’s what makes it real and meaningful.
Live with no excuses. Love with no regrets.
Take care.
Live with no excuses and love with no regrets.
X, Hani. ♥