There Are Plenty Of Fish In The Sea, But That Doesn’t Mean You Have To Pick One.

In a world that often makes being single seem like a problem, I’ve been rocking my single status for the past four years and living my best life. Instead of feeling down or desperately searching for a partner, I decided to embrace my single journey and focus on becoming the best version of myself. It’s been a wild ride filled with self-discovery, personal growth, and a healthy dose of humor. Along the way, I’ve learned a thing or two about breaking free from society’s expectations, staying true to my own timelines, and learning to ignore those intrusive questions about marriage and age. After all, nobody else will live my life for me, right?

The “Single Stigma” and My Empowering Choice.

Let’s face it: society often makes us feel like being single as a woman is a problem to be solved, as if our lives are incomplete without a significant other. As someone who has embraced the single journey for quite some time now, I can confidently say that being single is not a problem to be solved. Being single has allowed me to discover my independence, explore my passions, and grow as an individual. Instead of feeling pressured to find a partner, I chose to see this phase of life as an opportunity for self-discovery and personal growth.

Sometimes, seeing our friends build families can make us feel a twinge of envy or comparison, but just know that their journey is not our own. It’s important not to feel threatened or lesser because our paths are different. Our friends’ joy doesn’t diminish our own. Embrace their happiness, celebrate with them, and stay confident in your unique journey. Your time will come, and when it does, it’ll be worth the wait.

Society’s Expectations: Relationship Status ≠ Self-Worth.

From a young age, society tells women that they should get married, have kids, and find a partner. The truth is, our worth isn’t determined by whether we’re in a relationship or not. We are complete and valuable on our own. My single life makes me realize that my happiness and fulfillment should not be dependent on my relationship status, but rather on the love and respect I have for myself. 

Those persistent questions about when we’re getting married and the not-so-subtle reminders that we’re supposedly getting old—these questions don’t define us. We are living in our own timeline, and it’s perfectly okay to be single at any age. Ignore the naysayers, the societal pressures, and the raised eyebrows. In the end, no one will face our lives other than ourselves. Stay strong, focus on your personal growth, and live life on your own terms.

Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth (While Having a Blast).

During these four years of being single, I focused on loving myself and growing as a person. It led to significant improvements in my mental health and physical well-being. I prioritized self-care, explored my passions, and embraced personal growth. By investing in myself, I gained inner strength, achieved clarity, and found confidence. This single journey of my life has been transformative, and I’m excited to continue nurturing myself and discovering new aspects of who I am.

Remember, being single is an opportunity to prioritize your own happiness and growth. Embrace it, invest in yourself, and watch yourself flourish.

Breaking Free from Gender Stereotypes.

As women, society often imposes unfair expectations on us. We’re expected to conform to certain molds, follow predetermined timelines, and adhere to what is considered “normal.” However, being single has given me the opportunity to challenge these stereotypes and break free from their constraints. I’ve learned to value my uniqueness, reject societal limitations, and live life authentically. By defying gender expectations, I’ve discovered a sense of empowerment and inspired others to do the same.

Don’t settle for less just because you don’t want to be single.

While it can be tempting to choose someone simply to avoid being alone, it’s important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness. Being single is far better than being in a relationship with the wrong person, especially in a generation where cheating seems to be normalized. When you prioritize self-focus, you gain a clear understanding of your wants and needs in a relationship. That’s why the longer you stay single, the more you realize what’s truly best for you.

Rather than wasting your valuable time and energy on someone who isn’t deserving of your love and commitment, trust that the right person will come into your life when the timing is right. Embrace your single status, appreciate your independence, and have patience. Remember, good things come to those who wait. 

So, yeah, let’s celebrate our single lives and focus on becoming the best versions of ourselves. We don’t need society’s approval or a relationship to validate our worth. Let’s rewrite the narrative, break free from expectations, and create our own paths filled with love, self-discovery, and personal growth. Remember, being single is not a curse; it’s an incredible opportunity to thrive, shine, and embrace the beauty of this transformative chapter in our lives. Let’s make the most of it and create a story that inspires and empowers ourselves and others.


Note: Being single for four years has helped me become more emotionally and mentally stable. It has allowed me to develop a stronger bond with myself and be selective about the people I let into my life. Throughout these four years, I’ve also had my eye on someone for over 1.5 years, and I still haven’t changed my mind a bit about this person. Our friendship has made me even more aware of the qualities and what I am seeking for in a partner.

Love, Hani.


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