Meeting New People Online? Here’s How to Stay Safe and Have Fun

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Meeting someone online is no longer something strange these days. In fact, it’s now the most common way relationships start. Probably because nowadays, people spend so much time online. Writing this post has actually reminded me of my own internet adventures. I’ve mostly met great guys who respect and admire me, but I’ve also encountered some who acted terribly, judged me for no reason, and were even mentally unhealthy. But one thing I can’t deny about meeting people online—it was fun. I’ve learned a lot, including about different cultures and languages and how weird and strange people can be.

If you’re thinking of trying to meet someone online, the main key is to be EXTRA careful. I’m not a pro, but after having both good and bad experiences, I’m sharing advice that took me years to learn. Here’s what I’ve learned:

1. Choose Your Website or App Wisely

Not all dating platforms are created equal. Every dating website or app attracts a specific kind of person. For example:

  • Tinder – The most popular, often used for casual hookups, friendships, or travel connections.
  • OkCupid, Bumble, Coffee Meets Bagel, Hinge – These tend to attract people looking for serious relationships or more meaningful connections.

Tip: You can explore multiple apps, but it’s always better to figure out which platform suits your needs and personality. It’ll save you time and energy. Keep in mind that all apps have fake profiles, so make sure you learn how to spot them.

2. Setting up your profile.

Your profile is your first impression. Make sure it stands out, but keep it authentic.

  • Create a catchy username: Something fun or that highlights a physical trait or interest. For example, “BlondieAdventures” or “CraftieEllie”.
  • Profile photo: Use a natural. Avoid heavy filters or photos that look too staged. Upload 4-5 pictures, including a mix of selfies and candid shots.
  • About you: Write something interesting but brief. Think of it like a conversation starter—just enough to spark curiosity without oversharing.

Tip: Keep it positive and fun. A little humour can go a long way. But avoid being too generic or making negative comments about past relationships.

3. Avoid sharing personal information too soon.

Protect your privacy at all costs.

  • Never share your full name, address, workplace, or phone number right away.
  • Don’t put personal information on your profile. Keep it light and safe.

Tip: It’s tempting to be open, especially when you feel a connection, but your safety should always come first. Sharing too much too soon can lead to unwanted situations.

4. Research the Person You’re Talking To

Once you’ve exchanged messages and feel comfortable, it may be time to do a little “stalking” before meeting in person.

  • Look for their social media profiles: Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, etc. If you can’t find any, ask them—most people are lying when they say they don’t have any.
  • Look carefully at their social media page. Check for mutual friends and observe their interactions with others. This can give you a clearer sense of who they are because you can usually tell by their social media.

Tip: If you can’t find much on them, proceed with caution. It’s always better to meet someone with a proven online presence.

5. Take the Initiative

Don’t wait around for the other person to make the first move. If you see someone you like, send a message!

  • Try an open-ended question or comment on something in their profile to start the conversation.
  • Remember, it’s okay to make the first move. If they’re interested, they’ll reply. If they don’t, at least you tried!

Tip: Stay confident. You have just as much right to initiate contact as anyone else. Being proactive can increase your chances of connecting with someone genuine.

6. Take it slow.

Online dating can feel exciting, but it’s important to manage your emotions.

  • Keep the conversation light: Focus on shared interests like movies, hobbies, or music. Avoid diving too deeply into personal feelings too soon.
  • Don’t rush into anything: Remember, what people share online may not always be the truth. Keep a healthy dose of scepticism.
  • Video calls: If you’re serious about them, suggest a video call before meeting in person. This adds a layer of authenticity.

Tip: Keep your expectations realistic. Online conversations can be deceptive, so don’t get carried away until you’ve met in person.

7. Don’t Be Afraid to Walk Away

If the conversation or interaction starts to feel boring or uncomfortable, it’s okay to stop responding.

  • If someone is just looking for attention or not giving you the effort you deserve, don’t feel obligated to keep talking to them.

Tip: Your time is valuable. If a conversation isn’t fun or engaging, don’t be afraid to let it go. Keep searching for someone who makes you feel excited to talk to them.

8. Move to Phone and Video Calls

Once you’re comfortable with the person, exchange phone numbers.

  • Have a phone call first, and then consider moving to video calls. These steps build trust and help you gauge their sincerity.

Tip: Never feel pressured to share your phone number or email right away. Take your time and only share it when you feel comfortable.

9. Meet in a Public Place

No matter how much you’ve chatted with your potential match, you’re still meeting a stranger from the internet, so your safety should always be a top priority.

  • Choose a public place for your first meeting, like a coffee shop or a busy park.
  • Pick a place where you feel comfortable. At the same time, if you’re worried about them figuring out where you live, avoid meeting too close to your home or workplace.
  • Meet during daylight hours or, if in the evening, in a busy area. Meet during the daytime. However, if both of you are only available in the evening, choose a location that is typically busy at that time.
  • Don’t let them pick you up from your house—meet in a place where you feel safe and can easily leave if necessary. Never get into a vehicle with someone you don’t fully trust. 
  • If they suggest going somewhere else during the meeting, don’t agree—especially if the location could isolate you or separate you from your transportation.
  • If you’re feeling nervous, bring a friend along, particularly if you’re meeting them far from home or in an unfamiliar part of town.
  • Always keep your personal belongings with you. For instance, if you need to use the restroom, don’t leave your purse or phone unattended or with the person you’re meeting. Treat them like a stranger, and don’t give them access to your private information.
  • Wear something simple yet stylish and classy. Choose an outfit that doesn’t reveal too much skin. Avoid wearing heavy makeup.
  • If you’re unfamiliar with self-defence, consider carrying pepper spray. 
  • Let a close friend or family member know about the meeting. Share the location and time so someone knows where you are and can check in on you.

Tip: Make sure you have your own transportation. Don’t get in their car unless you trust them completely. Bring a friend if you’re nervous or meeting in an unfamiliar area.

10. You Can Always Leave If It Doesn’t Feel Right

If you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, leave the date. You don’t owe anyone an explanation.

  • Plan your escape route ahead of time in case you need to leave quickly.
  • If you feel you need to end the date politely, you can say something like, “I have to leave early tonight for a family thing” or “I need to get going to take care of something.”

Tip: Trust your gut. If something feels off, don’t hesitate to leave. Your safety and peace of mind come first.

Conclusion

Meeting someone online can be a fun and rewarding way to meet new people, but it’s important to approach it with caution and common sense. Take your time to get to know someone, trust your instincts, and always prioritize your safety.

Good luck, and may you find a connection that’s worth your time and effort!

 

Until then, Hani. 

 

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